There was a time in your life when the thought of having sex would really excite you. This was true especially during the early stages of your marriage. As time passed by however, you no longer feel the same way about sex. In fact, it has become unsatisfying. If you have reached this point, you have to do something about it. You can’t allow your relationship to continue this way. Here are 7 possible reasons why your sex life has become a bore.
1. You don’t communicate with your partner
Communication is always the key in a successful relationship. When you can’t even be honest about your feelings for each other, you can’t expect a satisfying sexual relationship. If there are unresolved issues, they make you feel angry, irritated and disrespected. The last thing you want to do if you feel this way is to have sex. When you have sex, it does not just involve your body, but also your feelings. Therefore, having sex when you are not emotionally attached with each other will make it feel like you are doing it out of obligation. To solve this problem, start by having communicating effectively. You need to patch things up first before you can go back to sexual intimacy.
2. You are too busy with a lot of things
The amount of tasks you do on a daily basis could possibly affect your sex life. In between work, taking care of the kids and doing household chores, you feel too tired to even have sex. The moment you arrive home, the only thing you want to do is to lie down and take a nap. There are even some instances when you have to take some tasks from the office home due to deadlines that have to be met. This is totally frustrating. To solve this problem, you need to start reducing your load and prioritize your relationship. You also have to talk with your partner to determine the best time for sex.
3. You start feeling bored
The moment sex feels like it is just a routine or an obligation that you have to fulfill, it no longer feels good. Predictable sex is just like not having sex at all. The best way to put an end to this is to spice things up. Instead of the usual routine, you can look for other places where you can have sex. Perhaps, you can do it in the living room when the kids are not around. You can rent a room at a fancy hotel. You may also do role play and put on a character. By trying new and exciting activities, you gradually take boredom out of sex.
4. You feel like you are no longer the same person
Back when you were younger, you felt sexier and hotter. Now that you are starting to age, you are no longer satisfied with your looks. You begin to be more conscious about your body and feel unattractive. You don’t think you still deserve the same sexual satisfaction you used to have when you were younger. If this is the problem, you are the only one who can solve it. You have to keep telling yourself how beautiful you are. You should also try working out if you think you are no longer physically attractive. There is something you can do to fix your issues related to self-confidence.
5. You don’t agree with your partner on what you want for sex
This is frustrating for a lot of couples. For instance, there are women who prefer more intimacy and an emphasis on foreplay. Men on the other hand are more focused on sexual pleasure and being able to “release”. Women don’t want to be treated like an object that men can run to when they feel the urge to have sex. This is why you have to talk things out. You need to ask each other what you expect out of sexual intercourse. By then, it is easier for you to make each other feel satisfied instead of being just frustrated that you didn’t get what you expect.
6. You allow days to pass by without touching each other
You don’t need to have sex everyday if you want to maintain a healthy, loving relationship. It doesn’t mean though that you can let each day pass without touching each other, or at least be romantic with one another. Sex is not just about the act itself. By being affectionate with each other, it helps in building up tension ultimately leading to intercourse. Allowing days without being romantic to each other will soon become weeks, then months, until you start losing interest with one another. This is what makes sex boring and less satisfying.
7. Sex has become painful
Let’s admit it. Our bodies are not prepared to do sex at all times. For women, monthly period prevents them from having satisfying sex. Men on the other hand may be very tired with a lot of other things that they can’t perform well in bed. Worse, it is also an excruciatingly painful process for them. This is inevitable. Also, don’t think that it only happens to old couples. Even younger couples may experience this problem. If sex starts becoming painful, you need to talk about it. Perhaps, you need a physician’s advice if the pain just doesn’t go away.
Sex is such a wonderful act. It is an expression of love and affection. It has to be a romantic activity that you enjoy together as partners. The moment sex becomes boring, painful or unsatisfying, something has to change. You can’t let it continue that way. Otherwise, it will not just affect your sexual relationship. It will also affect your relationship in general. Obviously, you don’t want this to happen. While you still have the time to change the course of your relationship, you have to change it now!